In Presence

The most deadly of all thoughts is that life is, can be, or should be, fair. Everybody gets what they get.

We expect, we hope, like trying to move a mountain. Life cannot be pushed but it can be invited.

Everything is unfinished business until it’s finished…which is when you no longer trip over it. If something grabs your attention, divides you, causes you torment or dissatisfaction, it is not finished. When you deeply appreciate what you have, when you accept that you, and everyone else, gets what they get, the reactive phase of your life is finished and what remains is love.

While you accumulate, you accumulate. Accumulation is not accommodation. You look for experiences. You are troubled by what you do not have and what you do not understand. You do not have enough. Your life is a struggle of should, would, could. When what happens today is exactly enough, you have finished the phase of accumulation and you got what you got. You see that you get exactly what you need every day and you see that everyone else does. You can begin to reduce your accumulation.

If you think that you deserve better, that’s where you are. If you blame me for your behavior, blame away until you have finished. Am I responsible for your reaction to me? Not in the slightest. Your reactions are yours. My role in them, if any, is my material to work with. We each get what we get.