I often think that my life would have been different if I had had the courage to take advantage of the opportunities that came to me. I wasted them and I regret it.
Consider this. If I could have done what I should have done I would have done it. Which means, in other words, that things probably happened in the only way they could.
If there is one thing that takes you out of the present faster than regret I don’t know what it is. In addition to all the things we think we should not have done, there are all those things we wish we had done, the missed opportunities, the ‘shoulds’.
Of course, looking back and making judgments about what you should or could have done is likely not going to take into account any of the real circumstances and internal states that existed at the time. And you have no idea what the consequences might have been if you had done it, whatever it is. But in any case, you didn’t and that’s that. The same circumstances will never come again.
This is all fantasy. Here you are. Can you take back your attention from the past and bring it into the present moment which is the only time there is for doing something, the only time there is for work on self?
Regret is a rejection of what is. It immobilizes the power to act and nails you to an invented past.
Everything that is happening now is workable. It is your work. The life you have now is exactly the right place for you and the challenges you face now are exactly what you need in order to wake up.
The life you are in right now is your own construction…it is completely the product of the way you think and the limits your thinking and sensing place on your perception. So, your work situation is perfect and it will begin to change when you begin to work with it as it is, because working with it as it is…making everything workable…changes your relationship to your life and your perception of it and that changes you.
Coulda, woulda, shoulda is a complete waste of time and energy.